Poetry
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A 42-Year Ride

I left the ending ambiguous, because that is the way life is. Bernardo Bertolucci One of my last good friends at Avaya was laid off last week. Although he and I only worked on the same project team for the last four years of my employed life, we share a history of jobs, customers, conventions,… Continue reading
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Who’s on First?

History repeats itself, first as tragedy, second as farce. Karl Marx Shortly after Mom’s 90th birthday she said to me, “How did I get so old?” My answer was quick and to the point. “You didn’t die.” While I am far short of Mom’s eventual 98 years, I can’t help but ask myself the same… Continue reading
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On the Nature of a Higher Power

There is an eternal landscape, a geography of the soul; we search for its outlines all our lives. Josephine Hart This missive is part of my Coming of Age series of articles. If you haven’t been following along and would like to know what this is all about, you can find the previous articles here:… Continue reading
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Ten Thousand and One Reasons

When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. Think of it–always. Mahatma Gandhi Preamble There is no denying it. We live in difficult times.… Continue reading
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On Being Alive

Someone to hold me too closeSomeone to hurt me too deepSomeone to sit in my chairAnd ruin my sleepAnd make me awareOf being alive Stephen Sondheim In last week’s article, On Being Human, I wrote of how at the ripe age of 67 I began my Coming of Age process. I answered the human part… Continue reading
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On Being Human

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin I began an on-again, off-again relationship with Unitarianism sometime in the late 1990s. Admittedly, I was introduced to the religion by my wife who grew up Unitarian. I was raised a Catholic, but somewhere… Continue reading
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Sensory Ghosts

All credibility, all good conscience, all evidence of truth come only from the senses. Friedrich Nietzsche Did you know that us humans possess between five and six million olfaction (smell) sensors. Because those sensors combine their data to determine odors, we can differentiate an average of one trillion different smells? Comparatively, we have between 2000… Continue reading
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The Sessions

Those who have never known the deep intimacy and the intense companionship of mutual love have missed the best thing that life has to give. Bertrand Russell This article deals with things of a sexual nature and I use words that may be upsetting to some of my readers. Feel free to stop now if… Continue reading
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One Step, Two Step, Change Step

People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar. Thich Nhat Hanh Preamble: Although much of this article is based on Twelve-Step concepts, everything is applicable to non-recovery. Change is a universal human need no matter where you are coming from… Continue reading
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Annunciation

We draw our strength from the very despair in which we have been forced to live. We shall endure. Cesar Chavez Last Friday, Linda and I rode our bikes to the Church of the Annunciation to pay our respects to those who were killed and injured during the recent mass shooting. We were away from… Continue reading
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Lost in These Autumn Breezes

Summer ends, and Autumn comes, and he who would have it otherwise would have high tide always and a full moon every night. Hal Borland Minnesotans like to joke that if you don’t like the weather, wait five minutes. While that isn’t exactly true, I have seen it go from summer to fall practically overnight.… Continue reading
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Living the Dream

A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality. Yoko Ono Excluding some slight poetic license, the following is a true story. My head must have been a thousand miles away when I was startled out of my thoughts with a loud, “We’re livin’ the dream, Andrew. Livin’… Continue reading
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Accept Forgive Heal

Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity. Hippocrates Every Wednesday, I gather with a group of similarly aged men to catch up on our lives and talk about whatever it is that crosses our minds. While we sometimes drift into politics and how messed up the world… Continue reading
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Get Off My Lawn

I’ll know my song well before I start singing. Bob Dylan I like to say that I catch nostalgia like a cold. It grabs hold of me and clouds my senses with illusions and fantasies. Play Me and You and a Dog Named Boo and I’m 13-years-old driving in the car with Dad up to… Continue reading
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Sorry Not Sorry

Let us endeavor so to live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry. Mark Twain When my youngest son, James, was around 11 or 12, he and I joined with a few other fathers and their sons to create what we called The Sun Club. Every week we met… Continue reading
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Act As If

The key to success is action, and the essential in action is perseverance. Sun Yat-sen Despite having what some would consider a long and successful career, I never felt that I was particularly special at anything. I was a decent programmer, but I knew a lot of people who were much better than me. I… Continue reading
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Tuesday’s Child is Full of Grace

I do not at all understand the mystery of grace – only that it meets us where we are but does not leave us where it found us. Anne Lamott Anyone who has been following this blog knows that I am deeply concerned about the state of the world and the country I call home.… Continue reading
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All the World is Birthday Cake

You know you’re getting old when the candles cost more than the cake. Bob Hope Last week I had another one of those birthday things. It wasn’t one that ends in zero, so it didn’t have the gravitas of a big transition. Still, I am of the belief that even these lesser-milestone birthdays are special… Continue reading
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The North Shore Simple Life

‘Tis the gift to be simple, ’tis the gift to be free‘Tis the gift to come down where we ought to be,And when we find ourselves in the place just right,‘Twill be in the valley of love and delight Joseph Brackett I am a Cancer and us Cancers find great comfort in the familiar. I… Continue reading
